If It Doesn’t Fit Stop Forcing It

Let me use an analogy to get my point across. Have you ever suffered from wearing tight, ill-fitting shoes? What a horrendous experience – you can?t think properly! Just about every part of your being suffers from the affliction and pain the ill-fitting shoe is causing you – your head hurts, your teeth, your ears, your ankles, your toes – you are completely agitated. When you get involved with a mate who isn’t the proper fit, who isn’t the right one for you – even if you believe that. in time, he’ll eventually stretch to suit your needs -you are setting yourself up for great discomfort and pain. Two of the major causes of pain and breakups are incompatibility and unrealistic expectations. Don’t try to make him into something he refuses to become. You saw the early warning signals when your intuition – your spiritual voice of reasoning – revealed to you that he probably had some form of “sexual addictions.” Then your wise godmother confirmed your suspicions of dysfunction, by revealing that although he “may seem nice, he may also be a little touched in the head.” Unfortunately, many women go into relationships with the notion that they can “fix” the man’s failure to commit. When he fails to do so, they devalue their own self-worth and deem themselves unworthy. What’s really unworthy. What’s Really Unworthy is the Janice incompatible uncomfortable, and unsuitable fit. If someone refuses to make a monogamous commitment with you, then accept it. Don’t force him into something he may not be capable of, nor interested in doing. That may not necessarily make either of you bad people, you’re just a bad fit – you don’t belong together – that is not your soul mate. You are a worthwhile individual who deserves to be loved completely and unconditionally. Don’t waste your precious time and emotions trying to change or “stretch” the wrong man. Instead, concentrate on becoming the best you that you can be. Conserve your energy, self-respect, and precious body temple for the right, mature, willing and decent mate who really wants to be with you exclusively. Trust me, once you meet him, you won’t have to sit by the telephone wondering ifhe’ll ever call-you’ll know that he’l always be On call just for you hy subject yourself to the pain and disdain of ill-fitting shoes? Let go of the torture _ shop wisely for a comfortable pair!